THE BEGINNER’S GUIDE TO A CRAP FREE CHRISTMAS
This post could essentially be just three words long:
BUY. LESS. CRAP.
Because it's not rocket science is it?
If we want less crap in our Christmas, and in our lives, we simply need to buy less crap right?
Well...yes and no.
If it really was as simple as that we wouldn't need posts like this, and I've have no-one signed up to my Crap-free Christmas course.
Because buying stuff isn't as simple as the financial transaction - it's an emotional thing. And at Christmas, those emotions that we associate with 'stuff' and gifts and giving get ramped another good few notches.
I will hold my hands up and say that we don't have a perfectly crap-free Christmas.
My kids still want stuff. Even they have enough Lego to build a life sized Millennium Falcon there is apparently still the desire (and they insist the room..!) for more. Despite my fervent wishes, our kids are not immune to the lure of stuff, and bright shiny plastic crap.
And to be honest, I still have a tug of war between my heart and my head when it comes to buying them presents - In my heart I want them to be happy, to have a magical Christmas, to be so excited they might burst. In my head, yes I want them to be happy, but I logically know that that happiness shouldn't come from 'stuff' (and that if it does it will be fleeting)
So it becomes about compromise.
And I'm guessing I'm not alone.
If you're fed up with feeling guilty about the sheer volume of stuff that somehow finds it way into your house each Christmas.
If each year you swear you're going to do it differently, but then leave it too late and it all gets too busy and stressful to do anything other than 'Christmas as usual'.
If you love the idea of less crap at Christmas, but you have no idea how to get the in-laws on board, I've got some suggestions here for how to go about it without ramping up your stress levels.
1. DON'T TRY AND DO IT ALL AT ONCE
This applies to all things Sustainable(ish) (the 'ish' is there for a reason!).
Think of any changes you make as a diet - if you crash diet and got at it hell for leather, you'll end up miserable, cranky and resenting the choices you've made.
Plus the family will think you've lost the plot and you're unlikely to be able to bring them along with you if you suddenly go all evangelical and start berating them for their choice of cracker.
Slow and steady (as dull as it sounds) wins the race.
Pick one or two things to work on first.
Go for the 'low hanging fruit' (i.e. the easiest changes!) first, and pick your battles.
2. BE BRAVE
Be the one who makes that phone call suggesting that maybe only the kids get pressies this year.
Or that the grown-ups do a Secret Santa.
Or that you do a Secret Santa for the kids if you have lots to buy for - they get one decent present they really want, everyone saves time, stress and money.
I've got swipe files with suggestions of e-mail/conversation wording to use in the Crap-free Christmas course if you're filled with dread at even the thought of suggesting this!
3. MAKE IT EASY FOR PEOPLE
If your house is already full to bursting and you hold your head in your hands and weep when you peek into the kids bedrooms, your inside voice may well be screaming "NOTHING!!!" when you get asked by anxious relatives what the kids want this year.
Have some suggestions ready for them.
EITHER for stuff the kids genuinely do want and you know they'll love and play with for a long time
OR for days out/experiences you can all do together - I always think National Trust membership is 'the gift that keeps on giving' for families.
4. SHOW DON'T TELL
Families are complicated beasts at the best of times, and even more so at Christmas.
As much as you might be visibly wincing as you see that Aunt Mildred has wrapped up the gifts in glittery metallic paper (a total no-no, it can't be recycled) don't berate her.
But make sure that your gifts are wrapped up in re-usable or recyclable options - e.g. brown kraft paper, 'upcycled' newspapers, magazines or old maps, fabric wraps. And if anyone comments or asks, just have a sentence or two at the ready like "Yes, I'm really pleased with them - we've been looking at how to make our Christmas a little bit greener this year".
5. ENJOY IT!
Christmas is stressful enough for lots of people.
Do what you can.
Focus on the positive changes and the different choices you HAVE been able to make, and don't feel guilty about the things you might not have got around to. The last thing Christmas needs is more guilt attached!
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